How long are you willing to pursue your dream? The truth of the matter is that, majority of us give up on our goals because it is more challenging to achieve than we thought.
There are always two crucial choices to life, you either give up or pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and try again.
Many of us fail before we even start because we tend to set unachievable and unrealistic goals. Giving up becomes the only option on the table due to lack of reason to go on.
In most cases, some just lack the confidence to try because, of the fear of what people around them will say if they fail. The thing we fail to accept is that, the people around us influences our success and failure.
Giving up on goals is so common that it’s important to examine the reasons why most people fail. Here, we will discuss 7 common reasons why people easily give up on their goals:
1. Lack Of Self-Confidence: Do you believe in your ability to bring an idea to fruition? If the answer is no then, you are similar to most people. Having faith in your abilities is the key to unlock the door of not giving up. Learning to trust your judgment will go a long way in building a strong mentality. People who lack self-confidence fail to set future goals or keep changing them.
If you are experiencing this, you can build your self-confidence in the following ways:
a) Stay around confident people because they will inspire confidence in you.
b) Reward any step you make towards self-confidence.
2. Preference To Stay in Your Comfort Zone: You can’t achieve your goals if you don’t leave your comfort zones. If your life is already ‘good enough” you will find it easier to give up and choose to leave your life as it is. Doing what you think is safe and comfortable might seem best at that moment because, you will feel you have gotten the results you are looking for in life but what you don’t know is that the results is missing in career opportunities, and overall growth of your life.
a) Study your fears and do something every day towards overcoming them
b)Make small steps and reward yourself for them
c) Make sure you pick the uncomfortable choice and stick to it.
d) Don't ever Give Up
3. Lack Of Perseverance: People who lack perseverance often think everything should be easy. It is mostly true for those who grow up with everything they need. Whatever someone else is doing to succeed might look easy from afar but, it’s not that easy. Do you know how many times innovators try to get things right? Instant success is always a story and only happens to those who use shortcuts. People who refuse to adjust to challenges end up settling with what they have. People who believe in quick results tend to give up when they do not come. Nowadays, people go for things that will bring fast results like:
a)Stealing tests to get better grades faster and easily
b) Taking drugs to help in studying and memory retention
c) Bribing tutors to get good grades instead of perfecting their academic writing
4. You do not Believe in Yourself
Your mindset determines your success, failure, perseverance, and giving up. You not believing in yourself is the answer to why you give up so easily. If you do not believe in yourself then, you will keep putting yourself down. You always thinkof the worst and blame others for your failure.
PS: The first thing that comes in your mind when you are on edge determines your strength.
In order for you to start believing in yourself, you need to:
a) Think about your past success
b) Learn to forgive yourself for your failures
c) Look for help
d) Practice always makes perfect
e)Set and achieve goals
“Believe in yourself that you can make a change”- Opeyemi Shodunke
5. You Listen People’s Advice: Listening to other people’s opinions, especially the negative ones will kill your dream. The fear of judgment can get in the way. It is advisable to give up on people who bring negative energy into your life.
The following are tips on how not to give:
a) Confide in the people you trust because they will give you positive feedback.
b) Identify and distance yourself from negative people when pursuing your dream
c) Focus on the solutions that are being provided rather than the problem
6. Lack Of Motivation to Work Hard: Commitment, motivation, consistency and discipline go hand in hand if you want to achieve your dreams. Self-discipline is what sets you apart from the dreamers. All people who seek to pursue particular things face challenges . Not accepting the obstacles and deciding to do something about it makes all the difference. If you are having a difficult time with self-discipline; then, there is something you are doing wrong. The pathway to self-discipline is easy with this habit:
a) Self-acceptance- accept that there are some things you cannot change about yourself
b) Develop willpower because discipline cannot stand without it
c) Self-control is vital to for self-discipline – you should take control of your life. Giving up short term satisfaction for long term gains which is the most difficult of them all.
7. Daily Distractions: We live in a dynamic world were you get instant access to information, entertainment and communication. We have gotten used to leading a fast paced life. It’s normal to get distract but you allowing the distraction take over can make you lose or forget your goal. Achieving your goal requires focus. A serious life dream might sometimes require years or even decades to be brought to reality.
Don’t Forget:
Giving up is the fastest root of failure. Nothing can stop you if you have self-confidence in your abilities. Leaving your comfort zone will require much strength but will enable you to explore greener pastures. When you lack perseverance, you seem to see every step as a challenge. On the road to success, there is nothing like a quick result, just hard work, and patience. Self-discipline means you do not wait for pressure to do better. Listening to harmful advice and opinion can discourage you and keep you in your comfort zone.
Take these seven reasons why goals are always given up on, work on them and you will soon find yourself achieve far more than you could ever have dreamed of. Good luck!!!!!!
