Sometimes in relationships there are no listed rules to live by. What works for Chuks might not work for you. In situations like this you have to discover what's best for you and your relationship.
A lot of people try to ignore some of these truths, but sometimes it does not turn out well. Some of these truths are unavoidable because ignoring them might be risky.
These are some of the relationship truths you should never forget.
1. There Is No Perfect Relationship: Don't be deceived by what you see in movies. While growing up, I always imagined myself having a prince charming like Cinderella. I use to think relationships work perfectly everyday. Is this really possible? Stop having fantasies and face reality. Don't throw away the great relationship you have in your quest for a perfect relationship because it will ruin the great relationship you have.
2. Successful Relationship Requires Some Work: Successful relationship requires hard work and commitment. In life, you can't succeeded without
making any effort by working hard. Same reason why you can't have a successful relationship without working. Both partners are to take the risk of sharing what's going on in their minds for possible solutions.
The truth is “Open communication and honesty is the key”.
3. Do not Fight For A Spot In Someone's Life: You undervalue yourself when you beg someone to be in your life or to be in theirs. Never force someone to create space for you in their life because if you do, they won't value you.
“You are unique and special” and trust me on this, if they know your worth, they will create a spot for you.
4.Don't Bring Your Past Relationship To Your New One: A lot of us tend to forget this. If your past relationship was too good, am sure you will still be in it till now. Don't ever compare your new partner with your ex. People are unique and different in their own way.
5. Your Relationship Should Not Be A Competition: You are not running a race with anyone. Stop competing with your partner. Your relationship will never grow if it's treated as a competition. At the end of the day, it is the relationship that will suffer.
6. There Is A Purpose For Everyone To Meet: Some people will use you, some will test you, some will teach you.. The most important one is the one that will bring out the best in you. Try to learn and accept the differences between these people and carry on.
7. You Have Full Control Over Your Happiness: Create your happiness first before you can share it with someone else. Nobody in this world can make you happy. The longing for completion that you feel inside comes from being out of touch of who you are.
8. Not Everyone Deserves A Second Chance: If your partner hurts you and keeps doing terrible things to break your heart, think twice before giving such partner another chance. To some, you giving them another chance is an opportunity for them to break your heart again.
PS: Second chance should only be given to people who deserve it.
9. Nothing Is Too Little To Appreciate: Cultivate the habit of always appreciating your partner no matter the little they do. Because they will want to do more when they have. Your kindness and gratitude matters.
10. Treat Your Partner How You Want To Be Treated: You can't treat your partner like trash and expect them to treat you like a princess. If you want to be respected then, respect them. Treat your partner just how you want to be treated.
11. You Get What You Put In: If you want to be loved, give love. If you want to friend, be friendly. This is a simple practice that works.
12. Your Life Will Be Better Off Without Certain People: Not everyone that comes into your life deserves to stay. If someone keep mistreating you and pushes you in the wrong direction, respect yourself and walk away. It will surely hurt, but you will be fine.
13. Even The Best Relationship Doesn't Last: We don't live forever. Be grateful for what you have, appreciate who loves you, who cares for you and cherish you. You will never know how much they mean to you till they are no longer beside you. Remember, just because something doesn't last forever, doesn't mean it wasn't worth your while.
These relationship truths should never be forgotten.
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