14 Signs She Truly Loves You

Love is beautiful and sweet especially when you are with the right person. True love makes you feel secure, special and hopeful. There is nothing more wonderful in a relationship than loving your partner and being loved in return.

Women are unpredictable beings. They are emotional and they easily have a change of mind. When a woman is in love, no matter how matured she is you will be able to notice these signs that will show she truly loves you.

However, when a woman loves truly, she can be so vulnerable, selfless and possessive. No matter how matured she is, she will still behave childish.

Do you find it difficult to understand your woman and the feelings she have towards you? Do you want to know if she really loves you? If you are having a hard time in knowing how your woman feels about you then, these signs will help you find out the truth.....

So without further introduction, here are 14 signs that shows she truly loves you:

1. She is willing to sacrifice for you: Your woman won’t hesitate in sacrificing her own needs to help you. I can relate. I know the sacrifices I made just to make my man happy in my past relationship.

2. She is kind and patient no matter how annoying you are: A woman who truly loves you will always be patient and kind no matter how annoying and frustrating you are. Even when she gets angry... she won’t be able to stay angry at you for long.

3. She forgives you many times: No relationship is perfect. It takes a lot of effort and commitment to make it work. Even whenever you hurt her, she is always ready to forgive you. A woman that truly loves you won’t focus on your mistakes and flaws.

4. She wants you to be a better person: She will always want you to be a better version of yourself. She would never tolerate your negative behaviors because, she wants you to be responsible. If your woman supports your negative behavior then just know she doesn’t love you.

5. She spends time with you: Love and time go hand in hand. It is very important you both spend quality time.

6. She seeks your advice: if she loves you she will always ask for your opinion.

7. She is a good intimate partner: If she loves you she will trust you with her mind, body, and soul. She will always want to try something new with you. She never hesitates while making physical contact with you.

8. She loves cooking your favorite meal: We all know the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. She will want to know your favorite dish and she will put extra effort in preparing your favorite meal.

9. She will always give him gifts without reason: If a woman loves you, she will buy you gifts without any reason. Usually, we buy presents for our loved ones on their birthdays or anniversaries, but in this case, it doesn’t need to be your birthday before she showers you with gifts.

10. She will pay attention to your needs: If a woman truly loves a man, she will spend a lot of attention to all his needs and ensure that he gets what he wants. She would try her best to please him in every possible manner.

11. She encourages and supports you in reaching your dreams: Your woman wants you to reach your dreams because, she wants you to be a fulfilled and successful person. She will always encourage you to pursue your goals.

12. She stays with you in your darkest times: If she truly loves you she won’t leave you during discouraging times, she will be there to boost your self-esteem. She will help you see your worth again and get back to your feet. She will be with you through thick and thin.

13. She will not take advantage of you: A woman that truly loves you would not only be sweet and nice to you whenever she needs something. If she loves you, she would be consistent in how she treats you, even when you are not doing anything for her.

14. She will not take you for granted: your woman can make you feel her true love by appreciating everything you do for her. She will not forget to thank you even for small things. She will never waste your efforts.

Women have a very selfless and tender nature. They will leave absolutely no chance whatsoever to show their deep love and affection.

PS: When you see a woman doing any or all of these signs mentioned above, do not take any of it for granted. Know and value what you have before it is too late.

Appreciate your woman’s deep love and everything she does in the name of that love and give her due respect for it. So what are your thoughts on recognizing a woman in love? Please share your thoughts and experience I will like to know more!!!!

7 Signs He Truly Loves You

Being in love is about an emotional connection. The connection is either there or it isn’t. Love is so sweet especially when you are with the right person. It’s not just about the feelings you have for your partner but also about how they make you feel about yourself and as a couple. 

When you feel truly loved by someone, you feel supported, special and happy. Being loved by that certain someone is like having a secret super power.

I know how nice it is to hear the words “I love you” from someone you love, but at the end of the day that’s all they are, just words. Actions are more of a true reflections of someone’s thoughts and feelings. 

People can say anything, but real love requires effort and  not just words. Don't expect  your guy to  drop “clues” or give you “hints” that he loves you. He’s going to do 7 very obvious things. And when you know what to look for, these signs will become more obvious to spot. You will be able to know when a guy has feelings for you or even when he has feelings for someone else…

He may say that he loves you, but how can you tell? What if he never even actually said the words? Telling whether or not a guy loves you can be tricky, but you can do it. You only just have to look for different signs, such as how much time he spends with you or how much effort he puts into the relationship. Keep in mind that every guy is different, so not all of the tips in this article may apply to your man.

So without further introduction, here are 7 biggest signs a guy loves you:

1. He spends time with you:  guys tend to stay  around ladies they feel comfortable with... If your guy doesn't spend any time with you, or just never seem to be “around” you, then, there is a chances that he’s not interested. An interested guy will always  find an excuse to spend time with you.

2. He Is Affectionate: His body language and his nonsexual interactions with you will show you how much he cares. 

3. He Cares About Your Happiness: A guy who truly loves you will always want your happiness even if he has to make sacrifice on his part. You being happy makes him happy too. Your happiness is a priority to him.

4. He Encourages You:

A guy who truly loves you will be your biggest fan. He will give you words of encouragement and will lift you up when you are feeling down. 

5. He Is Protective: He will always be very protective of you. He will never want to see you hurt,  He will be very cautious so as not to be a source of pain to you. He will treat you with respect, and mind his actions and words.

6. He Sees You: A guy that truly loves you  see and accept the real you. If your guy has seen the worst of you and still looks deep and lovingly into your eyes with no judgement he truly loves you.

7. He Misses You Even When Apart: Knowing how much your guy misses you when you are far make you feel special. He may not say it, but the phone calls, and texts he sends when you two are apart is his way of telling you he misses you.

 Some guys have been fucking around for so long that they’ve basically become professional players. And some guys just have a knack for faking the love long enough to get what they want or at least give it a good try.

But most guys aren’t willing to invest that much energy into something they don’t consider serious. If you know what signs to look for, you’ll be able to tell what game they’re playing.

I really wish we can rely on guys to be on their best behaviors, but we can’t. We’ve all been hurt often enough to know that. So, learn the difference between a guy who pretends to like you and a guy who like likes you. You’ll be amazed at how many bullets you dodge.

Are you able to recognize when a man truly loves you? Hearing the words is nice, but don’t get caught up in words. His actions are far more important and telling than any three words could ever be. So what are your thoughts on recognizing a man in love? Please share your thoughts and experience I will like to know more!!!!

22 Things To Do To Make Sure Your Relationship Last

Being in a relationship is not that easy and whoever tells you otherwise clearly has no idea about what he is talking about.

Relationship needs more than love. It requires both work and dedication from both partners. Love is paramount but it’s never really enough!

Whether you just started a relationship or you have been together for years, there are things you can make your relationship. Even if you have experienced a lot of failed relationships in the past or struggled before to rebuild the spark of romance in your current relationship, you can still learn to stay connected, find fulfillment, and enjoy lasting happiness.

Here are 22 things you can do to make sure your relationship last.

1. Take pride in your partner. Treasure them for loving you through thick and thin.

2. In the face of difficulties, don't ever bring up separation as an option.

3. Be open to compromises.

4. Don’t be ashamed of who you are. Let your partner know the real you.

5. Never take your partner for granted.

6. Don't bottle up feelings and emotions. Talk it out!

7. Try to remember little details such as likes and dislikes of your partner.

8. Take interest in their passion and work. Support them. Encourage them.

9. Don't compare your partner or relationship with others.

10. Make them feel valued. Tell them they make your life better from time to time.

11. If a discussion turns into a fight, Learn how to respectfully resolve conflict.

12. Be patient and forgiving when they confess or apologize.

13. Make efforts to take out time for each other.

14. Accept them, don't try to change them.

15. Communication is the key

16. Honesty is the foundation.

17. No matter what, never ever do or say anything to put them down.

18. Treat your partner the way you want them to treat you. 

19. Don't be indifferent to future plans.

20. Pay attention when they share their thoughts and feelings.

21. Don't wait around expecting them to figure out what you want. Speak up.

22. For any major decision, consult them and explain your stance.

Relationships require a fair amount of effort. They don't just purr along forever on their own! Think of your relationship like you owning a car...am sure you do oil changes, routine maintenance, etc. Make sure you are setting aside enough quality time to talk and just have fun. Make sure your relationship sex. There need to be a balance. And don't give up at the first bump in the road.

7 Reasons Why People Easily Give Up On Their Goals

How long are you willing to pursue your dream?  The truth of the matter is that, majority of us give up on our goals because it is more challenging to achieve than we thought.

There are always two crucial choices to life, you either give up or pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and try again.

Many of us fail before we even start because we tend to set unachievable and unrealistic goals.  Giving up becomes the only option on the table due to lack of reason to go on. 

In most cases, some just lack the confidence to try because, of the fear of what people around them will say if they fail. The thing we fail to accept is that, the people around us influences our success and failure. 

Giving up on goals is so common that it’s important to examine the reasons why most people fail. Here, we will discuss 7 common reasons why people easily give up on their goals:

1. Lack Of Self-Confidence: Do you believe in your ability to bring an idea to fruition? If the answer is no then, you are similar to most people. Having faith in your abilities is the key to unlock the door of not giving up. Learning to trust your judgment will go a long way in building a strong mentality. People who lack self-confidence fail to set future goals or keep changing them.

If you are experiencing this, you can build your self-confidence in the following ways:

a) Stay around confident people because they will inspire confidence in you.

b) Reward any step you make towards self-confidence.

2. Preference To Stay in Your Comfort Zone: You can’t achieve your goals if you don’t leave your comfort zones. If your life is already ‘good enough” you will find it easier to give up and choose to leave your life as it is. Doing what you think is safe and comfortable might seem best at that moment because, you will feel you have gotten the results you are looking for in life but what you don’t know is that the results is missing in career opportunities, and overall growth of your life.

a) Study your fears and do something every day towards overcoming them

b)Make small steps and reward yourself for them

c) Make sure you pick the uncomfortable choice and stick to it.

d) Don't ever Give Up

3. Lack Of Perseverance: People who lack perseverance often think everything should be easy. It is mostly true for those who grow up with everything they need. Whatever someone else is doing to succeed might look easy from afar but, it’s not that easy. Do you know how many times innovators try to get things right? Instant success is always a story and only happens to those who use shortcuts. People who refuse to adjust to challenges end up settling with what they have. People who believe in quick results tend to give up when they do not come. Nowadays, people go for things that will bring fast results like:

a)Stealing tests to get better grades faster and easily

b) Taking drugs to help in studying and memory retention

c) Bribing tutors to get good grades instead of perfecting their academic writing

4. You do not Believe in Yourself

Your mindset determines your success, failure, perseverance, and giving up.  You not believing in yourself is the answer to why you give up so easily. If you do not believe in yourself then, you will keep putting yourself down.  You always thinkof the worst and blame others for your failure. 

PS: The first thing that comes in your mind when you are on edge determines your strength. 

In order for you to start believing in yourself, you need to:

a) Think about your past success

b) Learn to forgive yourself for your failures

c) Look for help

d) Practice always makes perfect

e)Set and achieve goals

“Believe in yourself that you can make a change”- Opeyemi Shodunke

5. You Listen People’s Advice: Listening to other people’s opinions, especially the negative ones will kill your dream. The fear of judgment can get in the way. It is advisable to give up on people who bring negative energy into your life. 

The following are tips on how not to give:

a) Confide in the people you trust because they will give you positive feedback.

b) Identify and distance yourself from negative people when pursuing your dream

c) Focus on the solutions that are being provided rather than the problem

6. Lack Of Motivation to Work Hard: Commitment, motivation, consistency and discipline go hand in hand if you want to achieve your dreams. Self-discipline is what sets you apart from the dreamers. All people who seek to pursue particular things face challenges . Not accepting the obstacles and deciding to do something about it makes all the difference. If you are having a difficult time with self-discipline; then, there is something you are doing wrong. The pathway to self-discipline is easy with this habit:

a) Self-acceptance- accept that there are some things you cannot change about yourself

b) Develop willpower because discipline cannot stand without it

c) Self-control is vital to for self-discipline – you should take control of your life. Giving up short term satisfaction for long term gains which is the most difficult of them all.

7. Daily Distractions: We live in a dynamic world were you get instant access to information, entertainment and communication. We have gotten used to leading a fast paced life. It’s normal to get distract but you allowing the distraction take over can make you lose or forget your goal. Achieving your goal requires focus. A serious life dream might sometimes require years or even decades to be brought to reality.

Don’t Forget:

Giving up is the fastest root of failure. Nothing can stop you if you have self-confidence in your abilities. Leaving your comfort zone will require much strength but will enable you to explore greener pastures. When you lack perseverance, you seem to see every step as a challenge. On the road to success, there is nothing like a quick result, just hard work, and patience. Self-discipline means you do not wait for pressure to do better. Listening to harmful advice and opinion can discourage you and keep you in your comfort zone.

Take these seven reasons why goals are always given up on, work on them and you will soon find yourself achieve far more than you could ever have dreamed of. Good luck!!!!!!

How To Cope In A Long Distance Relationship

Distance is one of the inevitable challenge couples face in a relationship, which is capable of destroying their long built intimacy if not handled with great caution.

I met Chuks through his father.. I reside in Lagos and he doesn’t. We got connected and fell in love with each other. 

The distance is really hard, but we have helped manage it by sending each other messages, converse throughout the day on phone and video chat steadily. It’s a constant team effort to keep us going to our first meet. Being that the coronavirus pandemic has disrupt our plans to meet. 

However, I am hopeful that we will get to meet after this virus of a thing is over. I know that as long as we stay true to each other and keep loving each other, we can overcome things together.

The thought of being separated from each other creates a great void and vacuum in the heart. It becomes so difficult especially with someone you have had great memories with, being in each other’s company and shared things in common. It is just like your world evolves  around them because they seems to be present anywhere you are. As the saying goes, “out of sight is out of mind” but there is an exception to this statement if the right steps are taken. 

Here are some factors that will help you cope in a distance Relationship.

1. Good Communication: Good communication helps to strengthen the bond and rekindle the spark that might have been lost as a result of distance. Technology has really made thing easier and less expensive. Communication must note necessarily be only calls, but chatting via social media which tend to be more convenient and less expensive . With consistent communication, distance relationship can stand the test of time because, by communicating with your partner, you are not just desiring to hear their voice but you are also reassuring them of your unending love towards them which can never be separated by distance.

2. COMMITMENT: For partners who has defined their relationship and are really committed to each other, out of sight can never be out of mind. Distance is however not a problem for them. But, partners who are not really into each other, that the purpose of them being in a relationship might be based on satisfying each other’s sexual needs and once that becomes impossible due to the distance, their relationship might eventually come to an end.

3. TRUST: This is a very important factor. Trust is not just earned but it is built, nurtured and allowed to grow with time before it becomes relevant. When you create a room for doubt while you are still with each other what makes you think there will be trust when you are apart? Always make your relationship transparent. Avoid anything that will create a room for suspicion in your partner’s mind. Lack of trust poses fear and brings about insecurity which tend to destroy the relationship with time. When the trust becomes mutual then, the distance in your relationship will never be a barrier.

4. Boundaries: Don’t do anything you wouldn’t want someone to do to you. Abstain from situations that might make your long distance partner feel uncomfortable. Adhere to whatever rules you know works for you both.

5. Make Plans: To keep your long distance relationship going, you both need to meet. Think and discuss things you will both like to do when you meet because, this will create something that both partners can look up to.

Long distance relationships are not easy, but the distance doesn't have to ruin your relationship either. Try these factors and you will see that long distance relationships can actually be more stable than close relationships.

CAN TRUST BE REGAINED AFTER BEING CHEATED ON

Relationship does not always bounce back after cheating. But it is possible for trust to be regained. 

It only takes hard work and both partners willing to reconcile. 

In a relationship, Getting cheated on is one of the worst feelings you can experience. It is really painful when you get cheated on from someone you share a bond with and trust completely with your life. It rings a bell right ? Yeah, I know how it feels.

Let me share my personal experience with you at this point...

I was in a relationship where the guy I trusted completely cheated on me not just once, but eight good times. I couldn't help it so I took records.

The most painful one was when he had an affair with my secondary school classmate. 

This my classmate is a fashion designer who my boyfriend condemned on first sight because of her height. 

Unknowingly, they exchanged contacts. So funny how guys tell lies to brainwash ladies just to get them into their bed..

I felt really bad when I later caught them. The pain I felt was worse than I do feel when a relative dies. Then I realized that he has taken me for granted because he knew I will forgive him again. But trust me this time I encouraged myself, gave him space and stayed away.

“In some cases, It is possible to rebuild trust to a point that it becomes stronger than before”.

“Believing that there is hope for the future of the relationship, is the first step to rebuilding the trust that was lost”

Most people cheat because they are not happy in one way or another and decides to leave you behind and move on to someone else. It could also be that some cheats by mistake, so they profess their love for you and tell you they still want you back.

Recently, I had a conversation with my friend Benson. I asked him why people cheat? 

He replied: “Some do it for fun while others do it to taste something different”.

The question now is, can you ever rebuild the old trust between you?  Here is what I think..

1. It depends on your relationship: some relationship can go back to normal and others can't. When you have been together with someone for a very long time, the pain is thrice as hard when you are cheated on. But if your relationship is new, it is easier to try put the incident in the past and work towards a better future.

2. It depends on the Offender: If they prove to you that they made a bad mistake, make amends and promise not to make the mistake again no matter the situation, then trust can be rebuilt. 

3. It depends on you: Are you willingly to trust them again? Do you think they deserve your trust? The truth is “if you have trust issues”, then you can never trust your partner again. But, if you feel you both have a future and you have listened to their reasons and it sounded  real, then you will definitely trust them again.

There is no definite answer at all. If your partner doesn't make amends just know that it's the end of the relationship. 

OVER TO YOU:

Have you ever been cheated on? 

Were you willing to trust them again? 

I would really love to hear from you and learn from your experience. 

Please leave a comment and share your experiences with me....

13 Relationship Truths That Should Never Be Forgotten

Sometimes in relationships there are no listed rules to live by. What works for Chuks might not work for you. In situations like this you have to discover what's best for you and your relationship.

A lot of people try to ignore some of these truths, but sometimes it does not turn out well. Some of these truths are unavoidable because ignoring them might be risky.

These are some of the relationship truths you should never forget.

1. There Is No Perfect Relationship:  Don't be deceived by what you see in movies. While growing up, I always imagined myself having a prince charming like Cinderella. I use to think relationships work perfectly everyday. Is this really possible? Stop having fantasies and face reality. Don't throw away the great relationship you have in your quest for a perfect relationship because it will ruin the great relationship you have.

2. Successful Relationship Requires Some Work: Successful relationship requires hard work and commitment. In life, you can't succeeded without

 making any effort by working hard. Same reason why you can't have a successful relationship without working. Both partners are to take the risk of sharing what's going on in their minds for possible solutions. 

The truth is “Open communication and honesty is the key”.

3. Do not Fight For A Spot In Someone's Life: You undervalue yourself when you beg someone to be in your life or to be in theirs. Never force someone to create space for you in their life because if you do, they won't value you. 

“You are unique and special” and trust me on this, if they know your worth, they will create a spot for you.

4.Don't Bring Your Past Relationship To Your New One: A lot of us tend to forget this. If your past relationship was too good, am sure you will still be in it till now. Don't ever compare your new partner with your ex. People are unique and different in their own way.

5. Your Relationship Should Not Be A Competition: You are not running a race with anyone. Stop competing with your partner. Your relationship will never grow if it's treated as a competition. At the end of the day, it is the relationship that will suffer.

6. There Is A Purpose For Everyone To Meet: Some people will use you, some will test you, some will teach you.. The most important one is the one that will bring out the best in you. Try to learn and accept the differences between these people and carry on.

7. You Have Full Control Over Your Happiness: Create your happiness first before you can share it with someone else. Nobody in this world can make you happy. The longing for completion that you feel inside comes from being out of touch of who you are.

8.  Not Everyone Deserves A Second Chance: If your partner hurts you and keeps doing terrible things to break your heart, think twice before giving such partner another chance. To some, you giving them another chance is an opportunity for them to break your heart again. 

PS: Second chance should only be given to people who deserve it.

9. Nothing Is Too Little To Appreciate: Cultivate the habit of always appreciating your partner no matter the little they do. Because they will want to do more when they have. Your kindness and gratitude matters.

10. Treat Your Partner How You Want To Be Treated: You can't treat your partner like trash and expect them to treat you like a princess. If you want to be respected then, respect them. Treat your partner just how you want to be treated.

11. You Get What You Put In: If you want to be loved, give love. If you want to friend, be friendly. This is a simple practice that works.

12. Your Life Will Be Better Off Without Certain People: Not everyone that comes into  your life deserves to stay. If someone keep mistreating you and pushes you in the wrong direction, respect yourself and walk away. It will surely hurt, but you will be fine.

13. Even The Best Relationship Doesn't Last: We don't live forever. Be grateful for what you have, appreciate who loves you, who cares for you and cherish you. You will never know how much they mean to you till they are no longer beside you. Remember, just because something doesn't last forever, doesn't mean it wasn't worth your while.

These relationship truths should never be forgotten.